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Top 3 Energy Work Do’s and Don’ts from a Corporate Medium

Energy work is becoming more popular and I’m here for it, honestly.

But I’m not a fan of some of the “energy work stuff” I’m seeing out there. It isn’t doing anything, it’s making things worse or it’s not complete to get you real results.

I’ve been doing energy work all of my life.

I love to teach my clients easy practices and tools that will support them anywhere. In this article, I’m going to share my top 3 do’s and don’ts of energy work with you.

3 Energy Work Don’ts

1. If it makes you feel bad or even worse AFTER you do it, don’t do it.

Listen to your body and your intuition always.

Energy work should make you feel better, like you had a massage but you were never touched.

2. Don’t go through the motions.

When you go through the motions without intent on anything, you’re not doing anything.

Energy work isn’t a fake until you make it experience. You must be intentional and actively doing the energy work. There is a big difference between saying you do energy work and actually doing the energy work. Make sure you’re doing it.

If you’re doing the same thing every single day on repeat like a schedule, I guarantee you that you aren’t helping yourself or your energy in any way. You have to be present, grounded and intentional when you are doing any energy work practice to get results. Basically you have to fully show up.

3. Don’t do it for a few days, see results and STOP doing it.

I cannot tell you how many times my clients have told me how powerful a practice is for them and the results they got from it were helpful and amazing to them.

Then when things aren’t working I ask them how that specific practice is going and they say they only did it for a few days or when things started to go really well, they stopped.

Don’t stop. It’s like exercising. If it works for you, keep doing it to keep getting results. If you stop doing it, you stop getting the results. Keep doing the practices that best support you.

3 Energy Work Do’s

1. Always begin and end your energy work with White Light.

There is a lot of negative energy out there and some of it likes to mess with people or needs you to help it grow in power.

Use the White Light to prevent this. The White Light helps you create a safe space and is the most important energy work do. If you’re only going to do one thing in this article, this is it. Here’s a video to help you bring in the White Light.

2. Regularly clear out your energy.

When it comes to energy work, people want to focus on bringing in more positive energy. I get it, it feels way better than the stress, worry, overwhelm, frustration and anger that everyone carries.

But here’s the thing, you have to CLEAR your energy out for the positive energy to have somewhere to go. Here’s a short video I did on this at this as well – it’s an oldy but a goody.

You should be clearing your energy out throughout the day as needed. Not when you literally can’t store anymore negativity and you blow up at someone for something completely irrelevant. By the way, this is a tell tale sign that you need to clear your energy right now.

3. Refill your energy with positive energy when you let go.

Letting go means you LET IT GO. If you keep letting go of the same things or find yourself struggling with the same things, that means you didn’t let go. Let go.

Once you actually let go, you have to fill those areas where you were storing negative energy with positive energy.

You do this to prevent refilling those spaces with that same negative energy by storing positive energy in that space. That looks like pastel colors and positive, but short I am statements. Here is a video to help you do this.

What do you think is the most important thing for you to shift or start doing in your energy work practice? Tell me, I want to hear about it!

Daily energy work can be a life changer.

I hope this article supports you in creating a better process and if you need support, reach out to me to see what program will best support your goals.

Overworking? Make THIS Your Goal Instead

When you overwork, the pattern is easy to continually fall into. The solution is to have something else to do that isn’t work related.

The solution is JOY.

What do you do that brings you JOY?

Do you know?

When I ask high performers what they do that brings them joy, I get a blank look. Every single time – without fail. This is a problem!

If you don’t know what brings you joy, you’re probably going to find yourself in an endless cycle of over working.

How do I know that? Because that’s what most high performers do. Their only answer when they dig deep to what gives them joy is work. Work brings them joy, so they overwork because it makes them happy.

Why is this a problem? While work may appear to make them happy, it burns more energy than it gives a person. It negatively affects every relationship and this is why it leads to burnout or stress leave.

Most high performers don’t feel successful.

They don’t stop and look at their life to see how far they’ve come, what material objects they’ve acquired that they wanted and worked so hard for, and they don’t make their relationships a priority. It’s because they don’t have time or energy after they’ve spent it all at work.

Work is their priority, their focus. They accomplish things, they feel needed and they see results for their efforts. And I get that. I’ve been there. But here’s the thing, overworking will lead to burnout or stress leave. I see it all the time. It also leads to separation and divorce. This is why it’s crucial to have more joy in your life.

To stop overworking – you have to have something else to do.

Here’s the thing – when a high performer doesn’t have a list of things they can do to bring them joy and recharge their energy, their default is going to be work. EVERY SINGLE TIME. Why? They have time on Saturday morning with nothing else to do – might as well work on this work task and get ahead for next week.

But the problem is you have to take a BREAK from your work so you can recharge. Recharging allows you to come back to work fresh, happier, more engaged and more creative.

How do you bring more JOY into your life?

  1. Joy GIVES you something to do other than work.

I know you’re not going to do something that isn’t valuable for you. Joy has a purpose and that is to stop you from over working by giving you something to do that you enjoy.

The second purpose is that it recharges you. These are things you do that bring you joy AND give you more energy. Added bonus it increases your productivity and creativity.

Focusing on joy prevents burnout and stress leave. Machines have to be plugged in. Think of this as your way of plugging in and recharging so you can easily keep going.

2. Create a list of things that bring you joy.

I bet you don’t know what brings you joy. That’s ok. Most high performers don’t. Let’s change that.

Ask yourself what is fun for me to do outside in nature?

Are there any activities I did when I was  younger that I’d like to try again?

Are there any creative activities you would like to try like painting, baking, cake design, floral arrangements, etc?

Where are your favorite places to go and hang out or do things at?

For example, I like water. I will RV near the water, I have a pool that I like to float in if it’s too cold outside to swim, I like to go to the ocean, and I love to kayak.

Do you see what I mean and how I can create a lot of joy for myself around the water? You can do the same with mountains, wind and fire if those elements bring you joy.

3. Schedule the joy into your calendar so you do them.

Now that you have some ideas to start with, right now write something that’ll bring you joy onto your calendar for the next weekend.

We want to make sure you’re making joy a part of your week like you do work and other obligations. What did you put on your calendar? Feel free to share it with me in the comments below.

The only way to stop overworking and overgiving as well is for you to have something else to do.

Once you get down the things that bring you joy, start doing things with family, friends and of course your partner as well. You can start by having them join in you things that bring you joy and then you can start doing things that bring them joy as well. But if you find you are drained by what brings them joy, then find other things to do with them. The goal is always to recharge.

I hope that this helps you do more things outside of work and that it has a positive impact on your relationships, time and mindset. Happy recharging!

How to Quickly De-Stress

Stress when ignored will build in your body. It will affect your performance, health and often your relationships.

Most people are stressed and ignore it. They ignore the tell-tale pain in their shoulders and in their neck which is the number one place stress is stored. Stress continues to grow and be stored in your body creating physical ailments that aren’t meant to be ignored. Rather they are a warning sign for you.

How you store your stress becomes a pattern in your body. Ignoring how to deal with stress is also a pattern. Stress IS NOT meant to be stored in your body. If you’re storing it, it means that you’re not dealing with it and it’s growing.

Stress has to be addressed and energetically cleared from your body.

Where do you store your stress in your body?

Is it in your neck, shoulders, chest or stomach? These are the most common places I find people storing it.

Where is your stress? Where do you physically feel tension and tightness?

How do you release the stress you’re holding in your body?

Most people don’t. I usually get a no head shake when I ask this question.

Typicaly stress is held until something else happens and you explode at some trivial thing that shouldn’t have had that response. This only releases a tiny bit of stress – of the pressure you’re holding physically and energetically.

How often do you think you should release the stress you’re carrying?

Once a month, once a week, every day?

The answer is actually throughout the day as needed.

Ideally, you don’t pick the stress up and store it in your body at all. This means you don’t let it in. Most people don’t know how to do this, this is something I teach my clients to do. I would love your goal to be to reduce stress throughout the day.

Stress is a negative energy.

Every person has a place they put theirs and it’s probably where your parents put their stress in their body. How do you parents handle stress? How similar are you to their patterns?

There is no benefit to you for carrying stress in your body. Overtime, it actually affects your health, mindset, energy and relationships. Let’s dive in and find out how you’re storing stress, how to clear it and I’ll give you an energy clearing meditation to release your stress.

1 – What are you storing?

What is your stress? Where does your stress come from?

You want to know what stress you’re storing and why.

  • Is it from work? Is it from a specific relationship? Is it a financial stress that has an easy solution but your pattern is to stress out? I ask this one because I had a client do this last week.
  • Stress can be a pattern. It can be what you do when everything is going well. Or what you do when things start to fall apart.
  • Stress is also being in stressful situations and not knowing how to work through it or even that it can be worked through.
  • Sometimes you carry specific types of stress for decades. These are the hardest stressors for you to look at. It feels old and heavy just because it’s been with you so long. But this is just as easy to release as stress you picked up at work on Monday.
  • Sometimes we carry stress for others like family, friends and team members at work. This is a big problem. Imagine someone is carrying around all their stress in a backpack. They may share some of the weight with you, but then they walk away and want to take their backpack with them. All of it. When this happens, you are carrying some of their weight plus yours and whoever else you’re “helping”

You don’t have to know what the stress is at first but overtime, you do want to pay atttention so that you stop carrying it and taking it on.

Get into a pattern that has an immediate response to stress which is – let it go!

2 – How to clear it:

Stress is a lower vibrational energy. Think about it being opposite of abundance and ranking as a negative energy like fear. It shows up in your body as a gray or black energy.

  • You want to notice where you feel your stress or how you see it. Notice where it is in your body.
  • Then you want to let it go. You do this by finding the roots and pulling the energy out like smoke or like a weed. And you want to pull out every little piece. Get it all out of your body.
  • Finally, you’re going to refill with positive energy otherwise you keep putting more negativity in there. Your body will store certain stress in certain parts as a pattern unless you change the pattern. You are going to refill with positive energy.

Here are some guided meditations and videos I created to help you release your stress:

I hope that these bring you peace and you are able to release your stress easily throughout the day as needed. Be free!

Overworked? Top 3 Practices to STOP Sacrificing Your Health

High performers are known for putting their health on the backburner. The catch? It’s impossible to optimally perform WITHOUT your health.

65% of employees said they experienced burnout in 2023 according to HR Dive. 65%!

As a high performer, your goal is to prevent burnout so you can continue to perform optimally. I promise you don’t want to take the time to deal with that healing and recovery. I haven’t worked with a high performer yet that was happy to have forced downtime to heal.

The problem is that high performers are naturally inclined to overwork and workplaces have a tendency to take advantage of this.

I have spent my career as a high performer learning what leads me to injury, illness and burnout and helping other high performers thrive in and out of work.

Top 3 Practices to STOP Sacrificing Your Health:

1. Prioritize Work-Life Balance

Don’t get lost or discouraged with all the work-life balance noise out there. Instead find and define a work-life balance that works for you.

This is all noise and distractions. You need some form or work-life balance to NOT sacrifice your health. Without your health, you cannot perform. I’ve seen health issues take down its fair share of high performers for weeks and months.

I took this photo at a local beach – one of my favorite places to go and recharge.

Ideally this means:

  • Two full days off of work a week to recharge and this doesn’t have to be on the weekends depending on your work schedule. But you want and need time away from work. Studies show this makes you more productive and creative.
  • Plans with family and friends doing things you LOVE to help you RECHARGE.
  • Taking REAL vacations and there are studies that show this increases your chance of raises and promotions.
  • And my favorite tip for high performers – FIND a hobby you love. Why does this matter? Because unless you’re working with someone like me that gets to the root of why you overwork, then you’re really going to struggle not thinking about work and then doing work in your time off. Hobbies that make you happy and feel recharged are your key to successfully creating a work-life balance that supports you.

2. Prioritize Sleep

There is so much noise out there telling you how to optimize your day by sleeping the minimum and this cuts into your sleep time.

How much sleep should you be getting vs. what you actually get each night?

Sleep is necessary for you to stay healthy, happy and productive. If you aren’t sleeping enough you are more likely to get sick, to be irritable and to be less productive and creative.

I’ve had so many clients stay up late at night or wake up crazy early to have some time to read or exercise, whatever it was that they wanted to do and didn’t have time to do during the day.

The answer isn’t to take time FROM your sleep.

Less sleep is NEVER the answer, so please stop doing this immediately. Instead you want to take time from where you’re overgiving and draining your energy more. This is where boundaries and saying NO comes into play. And making YOURSELF and your sleep a priority.

If you want to have more energy and not hit a wall everyday at 3 pm, the answer is getting enough sleep for YOU.

3. Prioritize Joy

I’ve been teaching my high performing clients for years to prioritize joy. You know what the reaction is EVERY SINGLE TIME? Wide eyes.

Most high performers have no idea what brings them joy. They’re so work focused and then everyone else focused. They don’t have the time and energy to do things or even know what brings them joy.

Photo of me taken at the same beach as tip #1’s photo. I love to stand on the rock jetty and feel the breeze and ocean spray. Water is a happy place for me that brings me a lot of joy.

Teaching my clients to prioritize joy is also my most stolen tip by other coaches that have worked with me through the years to use with their own clients.

Find out what is FUN for you to do. You may have to do some research but when you dive deep, you’ll know. I often tune into my clients and have a few ideas to get them started.

When you prioritize joy, you’ll find you are able to recharge quickly and you’re happier.

Burnout and being on the path to burnout is a norm.

The problem is that you’re sacrificing your health. Without your health, you can’t do very much. Which one of my top 3 tips above will you start implementing right away? Tell me below, I want to know.

I hope you will implement each of these 3 tips because as a high performer they will help you perform better and prevent burnout.

Remember, burnout is completely preventable and you are here for MORE than your work. Machines have to be plugged in, you do too!

How to Easily Move Out of Your Comfort Zone – 3 Steps

You want to do something differently – but you keep putting it off. You’re busy. Overworked. Running on empty.

Instead of making the change you know you need to make, you say you’ll do it next month. Next year. Later. Someday.

But when is someday?

You are stuck in your comfort zone. While you aren’t happy, you are comfortable…until you’re not.

As a Spiritual Medium and Energy Strategist, I see people get STUCK in their comfort zone ALL the time. Not because they’re lazy, it’s the opposite. You have too much going on and you just don’t have the bandwidth to do it. Does this sound familiar?

Let’s dive into 3 steps to move you out of your comfort zone and onto your best path.

1 – Create a REASONABLE Action Plan

You know what you want to do. You even know the steps to get there.

Where I see people get stuck in their comfort zone is that they either try:

  • To create a completely UNREALISTIC PLAN with their work and life schedule. This means it’s not going to happen and you end up more frustrated.
  • Or they WAIT for the “perfect time” with their work schedule to get started. But you know how work is. It’s busy and there are always new, urgent priorities and deadlines.

A reasonable action plan means that you look honestly and objectively at your schedule to see when you really can time block to take action. You also have to hold that time as a priority over other things that come up. This is often where I come in to support my clients in staying on their best path.

Obstacles real and perceived are a big problem. Create a reasonable action plan and stick to it. Find an accountability partner for yourself if that’s what you need.

2 – Letting Go

Once you start to make changes, letting go is your best friend.

There are many things to let go of: limiting beliefs, fears, family patterns and expectations, your expectations, and any road blocks that keep you from moving forward.

The thing about letting go is that it should be different every time. If you keep letting go of the same thing, you’re not letting go. I’ll give you a video to help you let go here.

How often you should let go? Whenever you feel stuck, off your path, if you hit an obstacle, if you hit a fork in the road, and whenever you feel like you should.

3 – Take Action and Celebrate

Don’t get stuck in planning or letting go. Take action. This is how you move forward. And notice I threw CELEBRATE in here too.

High performers are notorious for hitting a goal and immediately moving onto the next one. This is your fastest path to burnout and is completely preventable.

What actions are the hardest for you to take? You need to know how you’re going to celebrate them. You may even want to create a list to help you so you can pull an idea from that.

Sometimes it’s a fancy dinner or a special trip. It may be a spa day. I had a client buy a diamond ring for hitting seven figures in her business. It can also be a day spent in nature.

How you celebrate only matters in that you are excited to do it for reaching this action goal. Some celebrations will be small. Some will be big. Just make sure you’re celebrating.

High Performer’s Top 4 Work Complaints & How to FIX Them

High performers are naturally fulfilled and engaged in their work. It’s why they excel and work in ways that other team members can’t.

You can’t make or train a person to become a high performer. Workers are high performers or they aren’t. So replacing a high performer is costly to every company.

High performers are internally driven by something I call their Success Wound, which is their energetic drive to do more, impact more, and even create more. The problem is that the Success Wound can drive them to burnout, which directly impacts their health, their team and the company.

I created my Success Wound™ training in 2019 after working with high performers for almost 2 decades. Some like to blame the high performer for overworking while others like to blame the work environment. My experience and the polls I’ve done show that it’s BOTH.

  • A work environment can definitely encourage and aid in a high performer overworking.
  • Having company wellness in house that high performers don’t have time to use isn’t company wellness.
  • But if you have a high performer in a company that implements the changes when I work with their teams to create sustainable success and work-life balance, you create workplace wellness in that team.
  • When you have workplace wellness, you create a work environment that is supportive and in tune with the needs of your top talent.

High Performer’s 4 TOP Work Complaints and How to FIX Them

Are any of these happening in your company?

Complaint 1 : No Time and Energy In or Out of Work

This is a problem at first for people outside the company – friends, family spouses. When I used to offer meditation at 5 star spas, the spouses would complain about the overworking and how it affected them. This will eventually affect your high performer and possibly their performance at work as they are encouraged to have a life outside the office at another company.

Work-life balance is necessary to retain your top talent.

You may think it’s great that they’re always available and working whenever you ask them to – but this is a path to turnover and burnout.

Result when I work with your team: I help your team create sustainable work-life balance to keep your people happy and reduce stress. A happy life will affect your high performers in and out of work. This is how they recharge and stay creative and productive.

Complaint 2: Toxic Work Environment

Toxic work environments are typically caused by leaders, directors and managers. Who is sending the messages and emails AFTER company hours? Who expects the team to respond to those requests and what happens if they don’t? Who is giving them more to do than is possible in their job title and position stated work hours?

Do you offer workplace wellness programs in house but your high performers can’t access it because their work load is too full? Or are they afraid to take advantage of it because they know when lay offs come, they’ll be let go for trying to have a more balanced work-life? Or is your workplace wellness a waste of their time because it’s not helpful to them?

Work fires unnecessarily increase stress and drama in the workplace.

Is there always a FIRE? All of these things add to a toxic work environment which eventually leads to your top talent taking their skills to another company to get a better title and compensation.

Result when I work with your team: I support your team with healthy boundaries and clear communication to foster successful relationships. This creates an environment where your team thrives and you become a place that people want to work at. You want this!!

Complaint 3: Overwhelmed and Exhausted

This is what happens when your team members continually run on empty with time and energy. Often this happens when you are short staffed and your high performers have to pick up even more work. Or when you’re on another tight deadline and this must be done immediately plus their other roles and resposnsibilities.

You do not want your top talent overwhelmed and exhausted. This means they have been under stress for too long.

Overworking is what high performers are TAUGHT to do.

When your high performers start getting sick and are out with injuries and surgeries – this is your big red flag to do something differently now. This is when they start to re-evaluate their work and career, I’ve seen it many times.

Result when I work with your team: I support your team by giving them tools to improve happiness, retention and engagement. They end up thriving and in roles that they love in your company.

Complaint 4: Not Feeling Satisfied or Fulfilled in Role

High performers get bored when the work is too repetitive or unfulfilling.

They lack fulfillment when they’re not feeling appreciated or they’re tired of feeling stressed out all the time.

High performers are naturally fulfilled and engaged in their work. It’s why they excel and work in ways that other team members can’t.

How is appreciation showed at your company?

If your high performers are checking out and doing less than normal or making mistakes atypical to them, this is a big red flag for you that they may not be staying with your company much longer.

Result when I work with your team: I give your team effective and time efficient practices to feel fulfilled so they are more present, focused and engaged with the team. As they thrive, the whole company feels that impact.

What are the problem areas in your company?

High performers are your most valuable team members. They get tasks done, they go above and beyond and they thrive in the right team environments. What needs to be done for your high performers to stay and thrive?

3 Tips to KEEP Your High Performers Engaged

How is your high performance team doing?

Most CEOs and founders don’t know the real answer, even if they THINK they do. There is no cookie cutter process or formula that works with high performers because they’re driven for different reasons.

This becomes a problem because you don’t know if your high performers are staying or leaving.

The truth for most high performers is that they want to STAY.

They don’t want to be bothered with all that changing jobs requires. They will stay until they feel like they have to go. Often when they leave they’re beyond done with the company.

I am a high performer that has experienced burnout twice in my career. I can recognize an overworked high performer immediately and give them practical tips and tools to help them prevent burnout and stress leave.

3 Tips to Keep Your High Performers Engaged

High performers change jobs when:

1. Their Title and Compensation are not in Alignment with their Results

Compensation is as equally important to a high performer as their title is. If you don’t compensate them AND give them the correct title for the work they do for you, they will eventually take their experience to another company that will.

Overworking is NOT a long term solution for anyone on the team.

I cannot stress this enough – the #1 tip to keep you high performer engaged is to make sure their job title accurately describes the work they do and the compensation equals the work they do.

If you really like the drive of a high performer on your team, tell them. Give them bonuses or extra PTO time. Make sure that your high performers know that they are valuable to your company and that you appreciate them.

I can’t tell you how many high performers leave because of compensation and title alone. Make sure your people are taken care of and that will give them a reason to stay.

2. The Work Environment is Unrealistically Demanding

This is the fastest way to drive your high performer to some sort of medical or stress leave or burnout.

If a high performer complains, LISTEN. If they’re complaining, they’re done.

Just because your high performers CAN get things done on a deadline does not mean to keep them in constant deadlines.

If you need to hire more people, hire more people. If you have a high performer that’s doing the job of 2 or more people, make sure that you compensate them for performing the multiple roles in a company.

The more stressful your work environment, the more likely that your high performance team won’t be as high performing as you’d like.

Stressful environments are ones that encourage long hours and heavy workloads. No worker is meant to function in a stressful environment long term.

This will directly affect your current team members as well as word getting out that you overwork your top talent. It’ll make both hiring and retention difficult.

3. They’re not Fulfilled or Engaged with the Work Anymore

Why do you care if they’re fulfilled or engaged? Their productivity drops and often times, they’re looking for another job.

You don’t want your high performers checked out. If they start doing less, they’re done.

What do you do as the leader?

If a high performer is bored, it’s time for a new title and compensation package that matches their experience and skill level. High performers don’t get bored unless the work is too repetitive or unfulfilling.

Or it could also mean that either they’re not feeling appreciated or they’re tired of feeling stressed out all the time.

High performers are naturally fulfilled and engaged in their work. It’s why they excel and work in ways that other team members can’t.

And just a reminder that you can’t make a high performer. Workers are high performers or they aren’t. So replacing a high performer is costly to every company.

What changes need to be made in your workplace?

What are you seeing and noticing with your high performers?

If you think, oh I have workplace wellness in place and your high performers are NOT taking advantage of it – that’s a problem. WHY aren’t they taking advatage of that, especially when they’re told this is to prevent burnout?

If you need help, schedule a call with me to see how we can increase retention, productivity and have a happy team.

All of these are easy fixes. Make them and they will happily stay.

4 Signs Your High Performers are on a Path to Burnout

What are the signs your high performers aren’t doing “okay” at work anymore?

How close are they to burnout?

The work environment is a big part of how much your high performers will overwork.

Is overworking encouraged with:

  • Questions and meetings outside of work hours?
  • Not encouraging them to take true vacations and uninterrupted time off from work? Work travel on weekends?
  • Giving them more work than they can humanly handle?
  • Support questions they don’t answer honestly as they continue to overwork to try to make a dent in their workload?

None of these are good and will lead high performers onto a path to burnout. No one wants that.

As a Spiritual Medium and Energy Strategist, I have personally experienced burnout twice in my career. I let myself down, my team and my family.

Burnout, stress leave and constantly being overworked are completely preventable with the right support. I can help.

I’m going to share with you the 4 signs I’ve personally noticed that tells me a High Performer is starting to check out and burnout. Let’s dive in!

4 Signs Your High Performers are on a Path to Burnout:

High performers aren’t known to do these things, so if they are, they are your warning signs.

1. They Start Using their PTO

High performers typically lose PTO from not using it. If they’re starting to use it, while that is good, do a solid check in on them and make sure they’re doing okay. This is your first red flag as an employer.

I had a client that started using her PTO to extend weekends and for job interviews. You want to check in immediately if you see this change.

Most high performers DO NOT want to leave. They will stay if they are compensated accurately for their work, given the correct title for the work they are performing daily and have a proper workload for their role.

2. Getting Sick or Injured Often

I see this one all the time. Often the only way a high performer gets to rest is if they get sick or injured. It was true for me and it’s true for your high performers that don’t have support. While these aren’t things they do intentionally, these are things that take them down.

I had a client this year that had to have a double knee surgery. On top of that, she kept getting sick with everything from Covid to Sinus Infections and then had complications from both surgeries. All of which made her frustrated because she couldn’t work.

She was the definition of overworked. As she started to realize rest was key to her healing with me, she started to find ways to recharge on the weekend instead of working more. Both knees are now healed. But she was given a lot of physician ordered time off in the process. She didn’t even get to have fun. All she did was heal.

Think of work-life balance as an energy balance for your high performers. Their energy is measured like the battery on a cell phone. The less energy they have, the more they’re performing on a deficit. Eventually they’re going to have to STOP and recharge. You don’t want that.

3. Performance Decrease

There is a point where the high performer realizes that doing more isn’t the answer because they keep getting more to do. The list doesn’t end and the pile keeps growing, often more than other team members.

They feel overwhelmed, exhausted and at their breaking point – these are their words by the way. This is when you’ll notice them missing deadlines, performing less and caring less about what they’re getting done. These are all really bad signs if you want to keep this top employee.

When high performers start to drop the ball or decline new assignments, chances are they are in the process of accepting a new position somewhere else. This happens because they’ve already decided to leave your company and they are starting to guide their energy into the excitement of the new position and company.

If you discuss the performance decrease with them and they are not seeking out a new position, be wary that they are on a path to stress leave or burnout – both are bad for everyone on their team.

4. High Performers START Asking for Support

High performers should ask for support often when their workload isn’t manageable. But they don’t. They work longer hours, start doing stuff on the weekend and before you know it, they’re working more hours than many of their team members on their path to burnout.

Asking for help or support is often a high performer’s last ditch effort to stay in the company or in the position. When they start to ask for support when they never have before – this needs to become your top priority to support them.

I know because I’ve been helping them individually for decades and this is one of the things I have them start to do before they start to look for employment elsewhere. If your high performer is asking for support, stop overloading them with more tasks and find help for them on the team immediately if you want to keep this employee.

Work-life balance is the only way forward to creating sustainable success and work-life balance. You want your employees to have both of these things to retain them.

When you tell me sustainable work-life balance isn’t possible, I’m going to help your team find that belief and change it. Burnout and stress leave are completely preventable. Support your high performers with individualized support – I can guarantee you, they need it.

The Top 4 Stressors in the Workplace & What to DO

Stress is a workplace problem that isn’t disappearing. Why is that and what’s causing it?

Is it:

  • The inability to find more good workers to help with the workload?
  • Giving more work to high performers than they can manage and not being aware that they’re overwhelmed and overworked?
  • Or is it having the wrong support in place that is generic and ineffective for your team?

I find that it’s all the above. How about you?

All these things create more stress in the workplace. More stress in the workplace creates burnout, stress leave and employee turnover.

According to WebMD: 75% to 90% of all doctor's office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.

That’s an insane number of doctor’s office visits for stress and it’s completely preventable.That means that getting control over the stress in the workplace is a #1 priority.

This isn’t work for just the high performers to do single handedly- there is work to be done with the team and leaders as well. It’s a company problem.

How is stress regularly created in your workplace?

These are the things you want to stop doing immediately in the workplace. They create stress which leads to all the issues you want to prevent.

1. Stop Having IMPOSSIBLE Workloads and Deadlines

If you keep assigning deadlines and tasks aren’t getting completed by your high performers – this is your sign that their workload is out of balance – even if they haven’t told you yet. This will create a tremendous amount of stress for them.

And note that if high performers start setting boundaries around what you’re giving them to do – you’re in the danger zone as an employer.

2. Short Staffed

I hear a lot of companies are still short staffed. I know, it takes time to hire key players but what are you doing to your staff in the meantime? How long can they continue to overwork like this? How are you supporting them so they can still be with you when you hire the key players you’re looking for?

And in the meantime, where does that money go that they isn’t being payed to the staff you don’t have? Here’s a big tip for you – give your staff that is picking up the slack: extra PTO time, a raise, a promotion, a team retreat or the support they need in the organization to continue to thrive. There’s a lot of things that can be done, just make sure you’re doing something before you have a bigger problem on your hands – like their resignation letters.

3. Giving More Work to High Performers than Other Workers

Does this happen on your team? An excessive workload is the #1 cause of burnout. Who gets more work? You know this – the high performers of course. Why – because you know they’ll get it done at some point.

But do you know at what cost to them and how this impacts the team? This is a huge stress factor so think before you give your top performers more to do – who else can do this. Only give them what they need to do.

Supported high performers are the most consistent performers and they thrive.

4.  Unresolved Conflict

Ignoring any work conflict leads to worse team performance. As a high performer who has worked for some big name corporations – you want to stay on top of resentment among the team for those that collect their paycheck while doing the bare minimum.

While low performers eventually are terminated, think about the issues they’re causing the team, more importantly your high performers while they are there.

High performers are an asset because they get more done than other workers. But of course this causes bitterness and irritation between the team members that are performing and the ones who aren’t.

Who are the high performance mooches – as I like to call them – in your organization? How is their workload and compensation compared to your high performers? It better not be the same if you want to retain them.

Stress in the workplace doesn’t increase productivity, morale or employee retention.

You don’t want your employees to be stressed, yet most companies have employees feeling the stress for months if not longer.

Stress isn’t simply reduced in the workplace by introducing yoga, meditation or breath work without addressing the problems above. Your employees are going to ROLL their eyes and be more irritated.

They don't have time. This is your biggest problem and their biggest stressor.

To reduce stress in your workplace, you want to decrease the stress you give to your employees and give them customized and personalized tools to decrease the stress they physically take on. I can help you with this.

Stop ignoring the stress in your workplace because it does end up costing you your top performers who are difficult to replace.

Now that you know what the top 4 stressors are in the workplace, I hope you are ready to take action to make them disappear. Feel free to share this article with your team and if you’re ready for support, book a call with me to see how I can help you in “The Successful High Performer Program™.”

What is Driving High Peformers to Overwork?

Do you hit a work goal and move immediately onto the next one?

Are you driven to succeed but find yourself unfulfilled no matter how much success you reach?

Is your overworking making you feel bitter and resentful as it takes a toll on your personal life?

As a high performer, you push yourself hard at work and you get things done. You set goals and move quickly onto the next one. You’re a rockstar at work until you start to feel unfulfilled, bitter and resentful.

Have you stopped and asked what are you proving to yourself and to others through your work? Most of my clients didn’t…until they realized that how they were working was no longer sustainable and they were on a path to burnout.

What I’ve found through my decades working with high performers is that this drive may have gotten you to the level of success you have today BUT it’s no longer working. Now it’s pushing you on an endless journey of overworking and overachieving…without enjoying the success you’ve created. This leads you to feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and stuck in a vicious cycle that feels pointless at this point in your life. I mean, you are successful. You just don’t feel like you are.

It’s time for sustainable success AND work-life balance.

I discovered years ago that what is driving you to your breaking point is what I call your Success Wound. I’ve created Success Wound™ offers that are trainings, workshops, programs and retreats because there is no cookie cutter solution to healing a high performer’s Success Wound. Let’s dig in…

What is YOUR Success Wound?

Your Success Wound is your energetic drive for more.

No matter how much money and success are in your life, it’s not enough. It keeps you from enjoying your life and drives you to continually achieve.

It’s your constant push and drive for more. More, more, more.

It leaves you feeling unfulfilled and stuck in a vicious cycle that will lead you to burnout or stress leave if left in charge.

Where did Your Success Wound come from?

It starts in your childhood. You either come in with this belief and it makes no sense to anyone that knows you. OR you learned it from family, teachers, experiences and friends when you were little and you’re still carrying that with you today. This is why I call it a wound. It’s a deep, energetic drive that is driving you to prove yourself.

Your Success Wound HAD a purpose. It did drive you and got you to where you are today. But now your Success Wound is preventing you from ENJOYING your success in and out of work.

The continual drive for more is no longer exciting or working for you. Instead it’s keeping you from feeling like you actually do have it all.

What is the energy of your Success Wound?

Your Success Wound is what energetically drives you and it shows up as proving yourself.

I’ve discovered in all my work with high performers in over twenty years, that you’re proving at least one of three things. I am worthy. I am enough. I am love. – it can be any combination of these things.1 -2 – or all 3. Typically it’s two things.

Also, most high performers don’t feel supported, which just fuels the Success Wound.

I have a high performing client that reached 7 figures in her business last year. Her response as she was crying – I thought I would hit this milestone and feel like I did it. I made it. But nothing feels different.

My response – you won’t feel successful when your Success Wound is still in charge. And it was. We’ve since then created a way for her to create sustainable success, have work-life balance and she has the tools to continue to heal layers of her Success Wound when it appears.

How long does it take to heal your Success Wound?

My training on the Success Wound™ is at a minimum an hour to help you know the root of what’s driving you. In my programs, we spend time healing it and as it’s in layers, layers will appear at different times for you to heal.

It isn’t going to be an automatic release. It’s deep. It’s been in charge for decades if not longer.

It’s how you operate. It’s how you work, it’s ingrained in your energy, responses, your relationships, your goals and your dreams. It’s why you overachieve and it impacts all areas of your life.

So we obviously can’t get to the root of your Success Wound here but ask yourself what is driving you to do more, make more, achieve more? I’ll also give you a video to do some energy work to start to heal it. And here’s a video I did years ago that tells you more about how I discovered the Success Wound.

  • How are you proving that you’re enough in your work? Or worthy? Or love?
  • Who told you that you weren’t these things? That you had to do more?
  • Where does that come from? How long have you been doing it? Do you still want to do it?

Who else do you know that over achieves? And to help you look at your situation more objectively, what does their life look like right now? That’s always a great way to get clarity on what you want to do more or less of in your life. Do you want your life to be like theirs?

Your Success Wound started in your childhood. Some of you came in with those beliefs. Regardless of how yours started, it’s layered into your energy and it comes out as an overachieving, high performer that doesn’t feel supported and overworks. And if you stay on this course, it will lead you to your breaking point.

Once you know what you’re proving, you can recognize it and pivot in the moment.

What does your Success Wound look like at work? How does it affect your personal life? What do you want to do differently?

Hitting your breaking point is not a badge of honor.

There is no reward for burnout. Or overworking. Or feeling bitter and resentful about your work.

While the Success Wound is what drives you to overwork, if you put yourself in a work environment that takes advantage of your overworking – that is a fast recipe for stress leave or burnout. Know what drives you so you can stop proving it. No one believes it when you try to prove it anyhow. Stop overworking. It’s not good for you or your work.

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