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3 Simple Ways to Reclaim Your Power

It doesn’t matter how successful you are, you can name at least one way you handed over your power and felt awful about it without thinking too hard with your clients, in your relationships, or even with a complete stranger.

You have old patterns and beliefs that allow you to hand over your power in certain situations. It’s almost like clock work. Your trigger happens and you hand over your power, without even realizing it happened.

And then you feel awful.

The key to creating a shift is to recognize that you have the power in each moment to create a new ending, to change how this story goes. In every moment you begin anew.

To create a shift and reclaim your power, these are the 3 things you MUST do in that moment or right after (in case you fell into your old patterns):

# 1 Be Clear

This is where you say what you actually mean to say.
You do what it is that you would like to do.

Stop people pleasing in that moment. This hands your power over on a silver platter. You know where this leads you and it is no longer supporting you.

Don’t play small. Don’t fall into those old patterns.
Catch yourself in the moment before you speak or act, as the incident is happening or immediately after the incident has happened.
Watch your energy exchanges like you are a bystander. The moment you start to feel bad, awful, or icky in an interaction, know that is your signal that you’re handing over your power and it is time to fix it. Immediately.
Catch yourself and say and do what you would like to do. If you found yourself handing over your power, your best energy move is to fix it RIGHT away – the moment you realize that you handed over your power.

Communication is the number one way people hand over their power. What will you do differently?

# 2 Hold Boundaries

Boundaries are YOUR way of telling people what is okay and what isn’t. If you don’t tell them, they don’t know. They aren’t mind readers and what is okay for another relationship may not be okay for you.

If you are new to drawing boundaries, read this article to help you get started.
When someone does not respect your boundaries, then you get to decide how to respond to their future interactions with you. You have the power.

By creating and holding those boundaries you’ve created, you reclaim your power. Who do you need to create boundaries with AND how will you hold those boundaries if they don’t adhere right away?

# 3 Stop Taking Everything Personally

When you think everything is about you – you are handing over your power to so much drama and chaos.

It is time to get objective. This allows you to be clear and realize what is your “junk” and what is someone else’s.

When you step back and get objective, like you’re watching the situation on tv, you can look at what is really going on.

Does this have anything to do with you?
Are you adding your past experience and triggers to this situation?
What is really happening in this other person’s life right now?
Is this even about YOU??? Hint, it’s probably not so don’t hand over your power trying to make someone else feel better. It doesn’t work anyhow…

Before you react – pause, breath and then respond. You’ll act more objectively and you’ll stop giving away your power.

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The best way to stay in your place of power is to not hand it over in the first place. The next best thing to do is to catch yourself before you hand it over or right after you hand it over and use the tools above to reclaim it.

In every moment, you begin anew. You can change the interaction and reclaim your power. You’re not serving anyone by handing over your power, so stop doing it for YOU.

If you would like a daily reference guide to help you reclaim your time, relationships, inner game and energy, you can get it here.

Lisa Gornall is a Spiritual Medium, Healer and Coach. She is also an author, speaker and offers event support.

Lisa uses her intuitive abilities to coach career driven women at or near their breaking point to reset. Get your head, energy and life on point. Let’s get back to that freedom lifestyle you originally envisioned!

How to Communicate with Spirits

When someone crosses over, the hardest part for us is missing them and feeling like we can’t talk to them, see them or feel them. We can… it’s just in a different way.

The first spirit I saw as a child that I personally knew was my uncle. I kept seeing him all day on the Fourth of July and I kept remembering some of our fun times together. It wasn’t until the next day that we learned he had crossed over in a motorcycle accident which is why I kept seeing him.

My grandmother wanted to see him so badly, she was devastated that she couldn’t see him. I could see him when I was with my grandmother a lot but I didn’t understand at the time that I was seeing something she wasn’t. He was often on the back porch and in her room. My mom told her that we both saw him and gave her all the details. A few days later my grandmother saw him in her sleep and felt peace. She was able to see him once she knew what it “looked” like and you can too.

1. Know that YOU Can Communicate with Spirits

That is one of the hardest things for us in this form, to realize that YOU have the ability to communicate with those that have crossed over.

You don’t have to hire a medium to do it for you and you really shouldn’t because you have the ability to see them, feel them and or talk to them whenever you would like to. Not all mediums are created equally, some do not read the energy clearly and they will interpret things incorrectly. This does a disservice to everyone involved.

At an early age, I knew I didn’t want to be the “ghost whisperer”. My job is really helping you heal your energy and be successful in all areas of your life. When it comes to spirits, my work is helping you connect with and communicate with the spirit directly. You can do it, I’ve helped so many people that didn’t think they could connect with them connect and you don’t have to wait until you’re asleep. You can do it while you are awake!

2. How Can You Communicate with Spirits?

Communicating with spirits that you love brings you peace. I hear this so often, so let me answer your first question – Are they safe? Yes!

They start communicating with you the moment they leave their body, whether they cross over into the light or they stay here for a little bit.

They will communicate however you recognize it. I’ve had people connect loved ones with material things like dimes and in nature with certain types of flowers or butterflies – they obsess over finding these items to know that their loved ones are talking to them and they will find them in those ways.

But there’s an EASIER and more fulfilling way!

YOU can talk to them and hear them. You may even feel them and or see them.

I have the ability to do all of this and for decades I’ve been teaching people how to do this over the phone, in person, at events, in videos, in live videos and in my books.

I promise, you can communicate with them. You just have to open up that ability and use it. Don’t be afraid, you’ll be so happy you can connect with them and you will cry tears of joy.

3. Exercise to Communicate with Spirits

You are energy. You are not your physical body, which is why I’m using the term spirit.

Because you are energy you are able to communicate with anything else that gives off energy. Trees, plants, land, animals, people, spirits and other energies.

How to Communicate with Spirits:

1 – Always begin by creating a safe place. Be somewhere you feel safe and supported physically.

Close your eyes. Bring the White Light through your body starting with your crown and allow the White Light to flow through your whole body, into your feet, and into the Earth.

2 – Relax your mind and imagine the person that you would like to speak to. Imagine their face or imagine them standing in front of you. You may feel them, see them, hear them, or all of the above.

3 – Talk to the person either in your mind or out loud. Whatever you feel comfortable with, either way, they can hear you and they will respond.

Say what you would like to say to them.

Pause.

What do you hear back? Whatever thoughts, images, or words that are coming to you are coming to you from that person. The mind is not able to make this stuff up.

Have a conversation with this person. You can just create a space (they will appear immediately and they will talk to you right away – they’re always talking because they know you will hear them eventually). You can ask them how they are and give space for them to respond. You can tell them your news, etc.

4 – When the situation feels complete, you can close it however seems fit and healing to you. Perhaps you say, “I love you” or “I’ll see you later.” Or they may tell you they are going to go. Don’t worry, they can come back at will.

5 – Bring the White Light through your body from your crown, through your body, into your feet, and into the Earth.

“I am peace. I am whole. I am _____________.”

Open your eyes when you are ready.

Know that you can repeat this exercise as often as you’d like and talk to them whenever you would like to.

If you want to know HOW spirits get stuck in houses, I have this article I wrote for you.

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I’m not your typical Spiritual Medium, I teach you to do the energy work and how to connect with your loved ones. I don’t do the communicating for you. You don’t need me or anyone else for that, you just need someone to show you how to get started.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

3 Self-Sabotaging Patterns that Cripple Your Revenue & Relationships

Entrepreneurs are special people. They are driven, innovative and adaptive.

The problem is that most entrepreneurs find they aren’t really enjoying the amazing life they’re creating because work goes from being a passion to being everything without even realizing it.

They also get stuck in the mindset they had when they started their business and don’t acknowledge how far they’ve come.

What got you to 6 figures energetically will not get you to 7+ figures.

There are 3 Self-Sabotaging Patterns at the heart of your Success Wound™ that I see driving every successful entrepreneur that cripple your revenue and relationships. Get objective and look at what is driving you. Are you proving:

1. I Am Worthy

Do you find yourself trying to prove that you are worthy in your work and relationships:

Trying to please other people
You feel better spending money on other people than yourself
Put others needs above your own
Do lots of work for free or low balling it, trying to prove your worth and not feeling like you’re succeeding

2. I Am Enough

Do you find yourself trying to prove that you are enough in your work and relationships:

Buying yourself stuff isn’t the problem, you struggle with enjoying it – buyers remorse
You can put your needs first but find you can’t meet them
Doesn’t matter what goals you crush, the moment you meet it, you’re onto the next one. It’s like you’re on a never-ending hamster wheel and its exhausting…you don’t ever feel like you’re enough or you’re doing enough

3. I Am Love

Do you find yourself trying to prove that you are love in your work and relationships:

In relationships, you don’t feel loved or appreciated and you’re constantly seeking it
You feel bad when others buy you stuff. You may even find you can be an emotional shopper.
By putting others needs above your own you feel resentful and empty and have no energy left. Seeking love makes you feel needy and desperate in work and relationships

Reclaim Your Power

While these beliefs can drive you to increase your income at first as you are proving yourself, they become what limits your income and relationships because they aren’t creating the happiness you are seeking ANYWHERE.

You reach a point where you become a slave to the drive that is pushing you to be worthy, enough and/or love.

Your work becomes a place where you can prove “I am worthy. I am enough. I am love.” but you don’t feel better or heal this without doing the work within because even when you HAVE the money, impact and success you don’t feel like you have it!

You have to get to the root of what is driving you (your Success Wound™), nothing external will fix this long term:

Energy cannot be manipulated.
What you think and believe, you become.
I am worthy. I am enough. I am love. These are your Universal Truths. Anything telling you otherwise, has to go. It’s time to energetically heal it and allow it to be your truth. You don’t have to prove you are these things because you ARE.
Abundance is a focus on plenty and enough for everyone, not LACK.

If you are successful, you are successful.

BUT if you think you are successful and a minute later think you don’t have any money coming in and I’m going to lose everything or not be able to retire – that’s the energy you are creating. You cripple your revenue with energy stagnation. Stop putting the brakes on your abundance, this is messing with your money, time, relationships and energy.

How to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Success

You can continue to scale your business without being driven to exhaustion anymore.

This constant drive to achieve more, do more, prove more is what I call your Success Wound™ and you can learn how to heal it here.
You are worthy. You are enough. You are love. Create an energy practice that you do everyday! This will help you connect with these crucial “I am” statements and create a shift in your income and relationships.
Reclaim your abundance mindset. You are an abundant being living in an abundant Universe. Stop believing anything less.

You have the power to make as much or as little money, impact and success as you would like. You can enjoy it or you can continue to operate from a place of lack.

Lack is a choice you no longer have to choose. Choose to live and focus on what you have and what you are, these are truths and they will change your revenue and relationships for the better: I am worthy. I am enough. I am love.

Ready for some support to heal your Success Wound™? You can book a Connection Call with Lisa here to see how she can best support you.

You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

4 Must Have Boundaries

Boundaries are essential. They protect you without energetically building walls and forts.

I hear so often that people are afraid to set boundaries, they don’t want to impose on others or they don’t even know that they can set boundaries…and they feel powerless.

Here’s the thing – if you don’t set boundaries people do not know what is okay or how you would like to be treated. Most people are not mind readers.

Boundaries are a form of self-respect, worth and value. If you keep finding yourself struggling and getting triggered by the same things, I guarantee you that you don’t have boundaries in place.

Think of boundaries as guidelines for people to know what you expect in your relationships with them.

These are the 4 Must Have Boundaries to put into place right now:

#1 For Your Time

Time is your most precious resource and the number one thing I hear people need more of. We all have the same amount of hours in the day, what differs is how we spend those hours and if we spend them HOW we want to spend them.

Set a boundary: Create a schedule for your work and personal time and adhere to it. When people come to you outside of your work hours for work, let them know when you will be able to help them.

The same is true with your personal time. Schedule in time with the people you want to see and make sure you block out time for YOU to recharge.

Also set boundaries around your social media time as well – you know that can be a huge time drain!

#2 For Your Relationships

Relationship problems or drama can so easily steer you out of balance.

By creating boundaries in your relationships it lets people know what behavior is okay and what is not. A lot of times, people do not know what the boundaries are because you have not set any. What is a problem for you may be okay with someone else.

Many relationship problems stem from people being upset at how they are being treated, but they continually let it happen – change this by setting a boundary!

Set a boundary: If you don’t know how to set boundaries with the people in your life, start by paying attention to what TRIGGERS you in your relationships. That is where you need to tell people not to do that behavior.

You can ask people not to do something, not hang out with them or give the relationship space. Make sure you hold firm to the boundaries, otherwise there is no point in setting them. You can still be around them and take the tips from #3 – don’t take on their energy.

#3 For Your Energy

Do you have people or situations that drain you? You feel completely exhausted after them – that’s because they are draining your energy and you are letting it happen.

Set a boundary: Instead, know that they can do whatever they want energetically, but you imagine their energy bouncing right off of you and back to them. You do not do this in a mean or malicious way, rather an indifferent way. You simply do not let their energy imprint on you or have an effect on you.

It is like you are a mirror and it bounces off of you and right back onto them in the same way they gave it to you, allowing you to keep your energy balanced.

#4 For Your Abundance

Abundance is a powerful energy providing you with miracles, synchronicity and support. Do not let people trample on your abundance or take advantage of you.

Abundance is more than money. It is love, opportunities, support, relationships, and basically anything that is appearing in your life at this moment.

Set a boundary: Most people need to create boundaries around not allowing people into your life that just want to drain your abundance.

Sometimes that includes your past beliefs, patterns and expectations that are no longer serving you so notice where you are preventing your own abundance.

Do not give out your abundance to things you do not believe in or because you feel you have to, do it when you want to or feel inspired instead.

It is time for you to take back your power in these areas.

Boundary setting absolutely goes both ways, so make sure you respect the boundaries that others set with you. If someone is setting a boundary, they have a reason for it. Something has happened that has made this boundary important, whether it was something someone else has done or something you have done.

Respect other’s boundaries just as you would like them to respect yours.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

4 Steps to Heal Your Success Wound

-How to balance it all so you can actually have it all!

What I hear from successful, high-level entrepreneurs, they:

Don’t feel they have it all
Worried all the time about work, retirement, family, friends
Not focused on what they have – constantly focused on next goal
Overwhelmed, exhausted, feel trapped in this lifestyle

Successful entrepreneurs out there – do you FEEL like you have it all?

The majority of people I talk to say, “No.” I find they are very focused on what they don’t have, even if they have 6+ figures sitting in the bank.

You cannot continue to up-level in your business with your Success Wound™ driving you.

Step 1 – What is Your Success Wound™?

This is YOUR energetic drive for more. No matter how much money and success is already in your life – it is never enough.

Your Success Wound keeps PUSHING you to:

Make more
Create more
Do more
Be more
More, more, more

Can you relate to that? I bet you can!

Your Success Wound™ HAD a purpose. It did drive you and got you to where you are today.

Now:

You absolutely love your work, it is your PASSION.
You are overwhelmed & exhausted. There is no time or ENERGY for life outside of work.
You have more money, more success and more impact but something is “off”.
You are not fulfilled and definitely are not living the entrepreneur lifestyle you dreamed you would be living.

Your Success Wound™ PREVENTS you from enjoying your success. The drive that once fueled you is no longer working or supporting you in your goals. It now prevents you from ENJOYING YOUR SUCCESS.

Step 2 – 4 Ways to Create Balance & True Fulfillment in your Life

In all my calls and sessions through the years, these are the 4 areas that entrepreneurs are struggling with: time, relationships, abundance and energy.

# 1 – Reclaim Your Time

Funny how you become an entrepreneur to have control of what you do, when you do it and who you get to work with and then you don’t have enough time.

It is time to RECLAIM your TIME. You do this by:

Creating a work day schedule and sticking to it (no working outside those hours!)
Having a morning routine that starts your day in balance
Pause midday to eat lunch (not a working lunch with meetings and emails) but time to reflect on your day and course correct
Schedule in the people you want to spend time with
Schedule in a walk or exercise each day
Create a bedtime routine (you had one when you were younger and it worked!)

The problem is that when you try to cram too much into a day it literally feels like it flies by. By beginning and ending your day with routines that help you calm, center and balance your energy and implementing in some of the tips above, you won’t feel like time is rushing by you.

# 2 – Reclaim Your Relationships

The number one complaint I hear about is not having enough time, but when your relationships aren’t working or falling apart…this is when people come to me for support and guidance.

Relationships are important. They are your community and support. And if we’re being really honest, you do not want to be alone.

The problem so many successful entrepreneurs have is that so much energy goes into work, there is not enough time and energy left for anything else.

Make sure you are making time to:

Do things for you – things that nourish you and that you enjoy
Spend making memories with people you actually want to be around

Stop searching and find relationship fulfillment here.

# 3 – Reclaim Your Abundance & Inner Game

This is more than money – this is what drives you. This is where your Success Wound is constantly telling you that you need more, more, more!

Your abundance is typically driven by fears of not having enough, being enough, or doing enough. Here’s the thing, fears and abundance do not go together. Fears are coming from a place of lack and abundance comes from a place of plenty.

You have to get control of whatever is telling you that what you are doing is not enough, otherwise you will find yourself unfulfilled and burned out. You didn’t come this far to stop now. Reclaim your abundance mindset!

# 4 – Reclaim Your Energy

Yes, you are tired. Overwhelmed. Exhausted. At your breaking point. I know, I hear it ALL the time! This is how you know it is time to do something different. You cannot continue at this pace.

Listen to your body, it guides you and tells you when to rest, play, eat and work.

Stop trying to cram too much into your day. Create an energy work practice that supports you and helps you balance and center as needed throughout the day.

Step 3 – What is it ENERGETICALLY that keeps you operating from your Success Wound™?

Your Success Wound™ starts in your CHILDHOOD.

Energetically you either:

Came in with this belief.
Your family taught you this belief.

Which is it for you?

What happened in YOUR life at an early age to create this drive?

What is the FIRST thing that pops into your mind? Is it that you had to PROVE yourself? Do you feel worthy? Do you feel like you are enough? Do you do enough?

How can you take care of yourself – not just external things but internal too. You have to become aware of the energy that is driving you. This is your why. But the question is – is this still valid?

Your Success Wound™ is showing up energetically in your life right now, in this moment.

Knowing what caused your Success Wound™, how is it also affecting your:

Business
Relationships
Energy (worthy, enough, exhausted, overwhelmed)

It is important to get to the root of what is driving you to do more, create more, be more. More, more, more.

It is different for each person, but it usually stems around proving yourself. “I’ll show you.” Right? But since this is no longer working and supporting you, your business or those around you – it is time to LET IT GO.

Step 4 – How to HEAL your Success Wound™

Your Success Wound™ had a purpose. It has gotten you to where you are today. This has been your drive but nothing you do is ENOUGH.

Your Success Wound™ is hurting you because nothing you do is enough and now you are feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It is time to feel fulfilled, supported, happy and at peace with your accomplishments. You keep hitting goals and you’ve been so focused on what is next that you don’t realize where you are now. You do not appreciate your success, you focus on what you still have to do.

Appreciate where you are and where you came from. You have more money. You have more success. You have more impact.

Stop focusing on external things and focus on what is internally driving you. Give yourself permission to heal your Success Wound™. It is time:

Create a safe space with White Light.
Let it go.
Refill your thoughts and body with positive “I am” statements.

I am worthy.
I am enough.
I am love.

4. Create healthy boundaries.

You can also check out this article I wrote with more details on 3 Self-Sabotaging Patterns that Cripple Your Revenue & Relationships. This is another layer of this article.

Now that you know what was driving you, you can name it, claim it and change it. Success can be fulfilling in ALL areas of your amazing life.

Ready for some support to heal your Success Wound™? You can book a Connection Call with Lisa to see what program will best support you to heal your Success Wound™ so you can LOVE this amazing life you’ve been so busy creating.

3 Easy Practices to Release Stress Every Day

How much energy you have affects every single thing you do in your day.

As a successful entrepreneur, you wear many hats and it is important you have the energy to run your empire.

By taking time each day to get back in balance and de-stress you will have more energy and a renewed purpose. You are not meant to go-go-go all the time as this leads to burn out and overwhelm.

Of course energy comes from eating foods that are good for your body, getting enough sleep, balancing your schedule and making time for YOU. You can see tips for these areas here.

Having an EASY energy practice to support you daily is very important – this is where the magic truly happens so you can recenter, refocus and re-balance.

1. White Light

A daily energy work practice is VITAL to helping you stay in balance energetically and it all begins with White Light.

White Light is God, Love, the Universe, Source, or whatever you would like to call it. It is non-denominational, it just simply is.

White Light is everywhere. You will see the beams of White Light breaking through clouds and trees most often in nature.

Energetically you are the White Light and it flows through you at all times.

Imagine visually, that you are surrounded by it in a huge spotlight or beam of light and it flows gently like a stream through your being. By bringing it through your body you are energetically balancing your being.

Here is a video to help you bring in the White Light and one if you have a hard time bringing it in. Use the White Light to help you balance and center, no matter what is happening around you.

2. Letting Go

Equally as important as bringing in the White Light is letting go.

You can visualize White Light and feel the peace it provides you, but if you are already full of negativity, irritation, frustration, stress, anger, etc., you just keep battling the negativity with the White Light within you. End this energetic battle by cleaning out all this junk that is holding onto the negativity.

You will know when you have letting go to do, just pay attention to how you feel emotionally, what you are thinking, and how your body feels.

All that stress, overwhelm, hustle, etc builds in your body and if you don’t clear it out, you will explode at something trivial. Sound familiar?

Notice that you feel so much better after you let go, and you will be in a better place for whatever is happening in your life or work at that moment.

There are many different ways to let go whether it is through exercise, creating art, journaling, visualizing, etc.; the list goes on! Here is a letting go video where you visualize the tension, stress, frustration, anger, sadness, etc., leaving your body.

3. Refilling with Positive Energy

“I am” Statements

“I am” statements are very nurturing and supportive to your body at any time but they are important after you have done letting go. These statements support your body and help reprogram that area. An area that was holding onto negativity gets cleared in the letting go session and is now reprogramming into the “I am” statement you are putting there.

I am peace. I am free. I am whole. I am supported. I am love.

Use whatever “I am” statement will best support you in each moment. Notice it is a 3 word sentence and if you find your body rejecting one of the statements above you have letting go to do.

Pastel Colors

Pastel colors like you see in a rainbow are nurturing and supportive energetically. They help you focus on a specific energy vibration in a specific area of your body.

The White Light is all the colors, this is using a specific color you are drawn to use.

Often no words have to be used with them. You just see the colors that are coming to you, let them do their work, and you feel great. Sometimes, you will find that it is helpful for you to have something for your mind to focus on like an “I am” statement or mantra like “all is well,” with the colors.

“I am” statements or mantras can be very supportive with colors when you have done a lot of energy work.

To put it all together for you, here is an Energy Works Basics video that incorporates all 3 of the energy practices in detail and ends with a guided energy work session.

Start practicing these 3 easy energy work practices today. You will notice a difference in how you feel, how you perform and the people you attract around you.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

Boat image photo credit in White Light section: Karla Keene March 2019

Create Fulfilling Relationships NOW

An area of concern for most successful entrepreneurs I work with is their RELATIONSHIPS or lack of good relationships.

Relationships are a top priority they are struggling with when they start working with me. Not having balance in your relationships throws off your personal life and ends up directly affecting your work life.

The relationships:

Are not fulfilling or supportive
You are exhausted and do not have the energy for them
You don’t have the time for them
You don’t have time for self-care like lunch or a full night’s sleep much less time for date night

Which of these relate to you right now?

Energy is simple. What you put out energetically, you receive back to you. Here are 3 easy practices to help you stop searching and start finding fulfillment in your relationships.

1. Reclaim Your Relationship with YOURSELF

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship.

How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. What you believe about yourself, they will believe. They follow your lead, you set the stage:

If you think you deserve a certain type of relationship or people around you that is the tribe you will attract.
If you believe you aren’t lovable, the people in your relationships will believe that too.
If you feel alone, guess what? No one can take that away from you but YOU. You’ll find yourself surrounded by people that are there but aren’t your people and you will feel alone.
If you feel distance in your relationships, look within first. What within you is it time to shift or is there something you should be doing?
Re-evaluate struggling relationships – are they still a priority, time to put on the back burner or is it time to let them go?

Self-love and self-worth come from within. They determine how much power you feel you have. Power is an energy exchange and ideally, it is EQUAL in all your relationships.

When you find fulfillment in yourself, you are able to create relationships at work and home that are fulfilling, balanced and have boundaries.

No one else can love you enough, value you enough or cherish you enough. It starts with YOU.

How to Reclaim Your Relationship with YOURSELF

Claim your truth:

Begin by knowing in your whole being, “I am love. I am light. I am safe. I am whole.”

I am enough. You do not have to prove yourself in any relationship by your work success.

Let go of any resistance to these statements in your body because these are your energetic truths.

Feel these “I am” statements through your body from the top of your head, through your body, down to your feet and into the Earth.

2. Make Time for Your Relationships

If something is important to you, make time for it.

No one ever says on their deathbed, “I’m so glad I worked all the time.” You do not get time back with people in this life – there is no rewinding the clock to fix relationships that are neglected. You have to be present right now.

Your social life is important for your well being.

While it is great that work is such a passion and brings you joy, you will find that all work and no play does not make you happy for long. You will feel that something is missing.

Schedule time with your partner, family and friends INTO your calendar.

Yes! Block out time for them. This not only gives you time to refresh your energy and mind, but it gives you important time to spend connecting with them.

Say yes to things you would like to do and no to things you do not. Time is valuable. It is important that you make time to do things outside of work that are important, fun or relaxing.

Be Present – Unplug from Technology

Time with those that are important to you should be unplugged. Make sure you don’t have your phone glued to you.

As a successful entrepreneur, you know the importance of replying quickly and staying on top of everything – but a life outside of work is equally important. Your emails, texts and social media will be there waiting for you to do during your SET business hours…not right now.

You can walk into any restaurant and see most people are disconnected from the people they are sitting with. Electronic devices are powerful to connect you with work but not with the people physically present with you.

Nothing is worse than sitting with someone and trying to talk to them while they are more engaged with their device. Or even worse – the other person gets on their device too. Then you have groups of people physically together but not really connecting.

When someone is on their device – they don’t hear you, you don’t feel more important than whatever they are doing on their device and you will eventually choose to not spend your free time with them.

Make time to be present in your relationships. You need a break from work and being present actually makes it feel like time is going by slower not faster.

3. Create Boundaries

Boundaries are so important and are often missing for successful entrepreneurs. They are an important framework for time and actions.

One important boundary to create is around your work and your personal time. Do not work in your designated personal time. Likewise, during your work hours do not work on your personal life. Create clear times to help you be present in both areas.

Create boundaries to let people at work and at home know what is okay and what is not.

Make sure you are firm on the boundaries or people will ignore them.

Respect the boundaries that others set with you as well. Remember to treat others as you would like to be treated and COMMUNICATE your needs and feelings.

As a society, we think that people should know what we want without telling them. The problem is they are not a mind reader. You have to communicate and one way we do that is with boundaries.

How to Create Boundaries:

Let someone know when something is okay or when it is not. I feel ______ when you do ________. Please do not do this anymore.
Energetically STOP taking on everyone’s energy. Just because someone is in your presence does not mean you have to let their energy pour into you, especially when they are negative or not in a good place. You have enough on your plate already. Do not allow their energy into your being, you can say in your mind, “No thank you.” Imagine energetically pushing their energy gently back to them where it belongs.
If someone is challenging your boundary (which will happen in old relationships) remind them of the boundary and be firm. If they continue to ignore the boundary sometimes space is needed or it is time for the relationship to end.
Follow the boundaries you create. There is no point in creating a boundary you will not enforce and make sure you respect other people’s boundaries as well. What goes around, comes around energetically.

Above are three easy practices you can start doing TODAY to stop searching and find fulfillment in your relationships. I have a whole book dedicated to supporting you in creating healthy, fulfilling and balanced relationships.

Relationships are important. Start using these practices daily to reclaim your relationships.

I am love. I am whole. I create fulfilling relationships.

Start living a successful, fulfilling and balanced life. It begins with YOU.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

3 Easy Practices to Reclaim Your Abundance Mindset

There are two things I hear from every successful entrepreneur I talk and work with:

You absolutely LOVE your work – it is your passion, sometimes your everything.
No matter how much money is FLOWING into your bank accounts – it isn’t enough.

You admit that you continue to make more and more money yet it just isn’t enough.

The question becomes why are YOU driven to acquire more money?

Is it from a place of fear – not having enough?

Or is it from a place of abundance – allowing more to flow in easily and effortlessly?

For most successful entrepreneurs, FEAR is in charge.

Your drive for success comes from a time when you did not have control or financial resources to help you. It could be from this life experience or another. Regardless of how, you have a strong drive to be completely independent.

You WORRY about:

Being okay financially
Having enough
FAILURE – Losing everything
Money – it just keeps you awake at night or wakes you up
Retirement

These are all FEARS.

Fears keep you in scarcity. They energetically have power over you.

You know fears are in control when you have money flowing in but it is NEVER enough.

No matter how much money is flowing into your bank account, you NEED more.

The problem is that from a place of fear and need, you create more fear and need – not abundance. You keep putting the gas on abundance then slamming on the break – here’s a video on this.

This place of need becomes a prison that you feel you cannot escape and it becomes your reality.

Let those fears go and regain control of your inner game!

What you create in your mind, you create around you. Balance begins by creating thoughts that are going to help you get where you would like to go.

Every thought you think and every word you use is creating your reality in this moment.

This moment shapes the next and things are put into motion and become reality without you even realizing it.

Pay attention to family patterns, thoughts and beliefs that are shaping your experiences and notice if they are still supporting you or if it is time for new ones.

How are fears and doubts limiting or preventing you by making you focus on what you don’t have instead of on what you DO HAVE?

3 Easy Practices to Reclaim Your Abundance Mindset

1. Be Grateful

Being grateful is the most powerful thing you can do to overcome your fears and doubts. It immediately puts you into the present moment and attracts more of these things into your life.

First pause.

Imagine stopping or freezing the thought – I don’t have enough.

Let that thought go and immediately be grateful for something you are truly grateful for in this moment (not what you think you SHOULD be grateful for) and you’ve reclaimed your power in that moment.

I am grateful for ____________.

2. Use “I am” Statements

“I am” is the most powerful thing you can say. Whatever comes after is what you create.

Think about it:

“I am struggling to pay my bills.” This makes you anxious, feel like you don’t have enough and it makes you see your bank account draining – not growing because it CAN pay all your bills easily and effortlessly.
“I am poor.” You’ll notice no matter what your bank account says, it is not enough. You don’t think you can spend your money on you without negating how you are spending it.

Try these instead:

“I am abundant.”
“I am whole.”
“I am free.”
“I am supported.”

3. Everyday Do an Abundance Energy Work Meditation

This meditation will help you allow abundance to flow into you and into everything around you (the best energy work practice because we are all one and connected.)

Consciously let abundance flow into you and let go of anything that is blocking it.

Bring the White Light through the crown of your head, into your feet, and into the Earth. It is a steady stream and you feel safe, comfortable, and at peace.

Let go of any fears, limitations, or things that are blocking you at this moment. Release them to the Universe, push them out of your body, and then bring the White Light through your body again.

Imagine soft pink or soft green flowing into the front of your chest, into your arms and into everything around you.

Allow the energy to flow into your chest until it feels complete.

If you find yourself stopping the energy or feeling like it is too much, you have more letting go to do. Let go of whatever is limiting you and then imagine the soft pink or soft green flowing into your chest again.

Open your eyes when you are ready.

My clients, other successful female entrepreneurs, notice a huge difference when they do this exercise versus when they don’t because what you put out energetically comes back to you!

Practice this meditation in the morning before you get out of bed or at night before you go to sleep.

These 3 practices will help you shift your beliefs on money from fear to abundance.

From a place of abundance, you attract in more abundance.

Let’s energetically go with the flow of abundance and not upstream with fears about not having enough.

I am abundant.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

7 Simple Tips to Help You SLEEP at Night

Being career driven, your work is a big part of your life but in order to perform your best and make the impact you are here to make, you have to SLEEP.

Your body HAS to have time to replenish, heal and rejuvenate. This happens by giving your body a good night’s sleep.

When it comes to getting the rest you need – falling asleep is often the number one problem I hear about and a close second is staying asleep.

If you give yourself the TIME to get the sleep, I have some tips to help you actually get the sleep your body needs to give you the ENERGY to do your work.

I know, there is so much to do and time is valuable – but you are the only one that can take care of your body. You do not have time to get sick so start getting the rest you need.

Tips to help you sleep better at night:

It is helpful to stop checking email and social media an hour before you go to bed.
Do not drink a ton of anything before you go to bed, you don’t want to intentionally disturb your sleep with a trip to the bathroom.
Create a night time routine (just like we do with kids) to help your body start relaxing and unwinding. You’ve had one at some point in your life and bed time routines work! You can even add spraying your pillow with lavender essential oil or diffuse it in your bedroom. Lavender is very calming and it will help you sleep.
Write down any of those brilliant ideas trying to keep your mind up and going before you even lay down. It is time to quiet the mind, not energize it.
Literally say to yourself as your head hits the pillow, “It is time to go to bed.” Every time your mind tries to have another brilliant idea, say this again. “It is time to go to bed.” You can say this if you wake up at night too and then do the White Light.
Do not let those fears creep in – it is time to sleep. You can quickly let them go and focus on a mantra that will help you calm your mind so you can sleep like: “I am peace.” “I am calm.” “All is well.”
Bring the White Lightin at night if you have a hard time falling asleep or if you wake up and can’t go back to sleep.

If you are sleeping well and meditating each day, you will feel calm, balanced and centered.

The more balanced you are, the more you can flow with your day. This will help you attract more success and abundance to you because the energy you give off is attracted back to you.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

4 Quick and Powerful Shifts from Overwhelm into Balance

As a successful entrepreneur and a Spiritual Medium, Healer & Coach, I hear these things all the time:

My to-do list is never ending.
There is so much on my plate, I don’t even know where to begin.
My business is so busy, I don’t have time for anything for me – like lunch, a date or a full night’s sleep.
How can I stay focused, confident and on top of everything in my relationships and in my business?

You want to be everything to everyone but you have so much on your plate.

I get it!

While you can manage being out of balance for a little bit of time, it’s not sustainable and it doesn’t work long term for you or those around you.

Add any change into your life right now whether you are choosing it or you feel it’s happening to you and it’s just too much! It tips the scales because you are already maxed out!

Balance is the key to SUCCESS in all areas of your life.

So how you can move from overwhelm and burnt out into BALANCE in the relationships most important to you?

It all starts with you.

Pick the area to reclaim that will help you the most and begin there. It’s time to get back on track in all areas! Reclaim your time, relationships, inner game and energy.

1. Reclaim your Abundance

What you create in your mind, you create around you. Balance begins by creating thoughts that are going to help you get where you would like to go.

Every thought you think and every word you use is creating your reality in this moment.

This moment shapes the next and things are put into motion and become reality without you even realizing it:

Pay attention to family patterns, thoughts and beliefs that are shaping your experiences and notice if they are still supporting you or if it is time for new ones.

How are fears and doubts limiting or preventing you from creating happy, fulfilling relationships?

How to Reclaim Your Abundance

Be Grateful

Being grateful is the most powerful thing you can do to overcome your fears and doubts. It immediately puts you into the present moment and attracts more of these things into your life.

First pause.

Imagine stopping or freezing the thought and let it go.

Then be grateful for something you are truly grateful for in this moment (not what you think you SHOULD be grateful for) and you’ve reclaimed your power in that moment.

I am grateful for ____________.

Use “I am” Statements

“I am” is the most powerful thing you can say. Whatever comes after is what you create.

Think about it:

“I am hungry.” This makes you hungrier.
“I am lonely.” You’ll notice you keep feeling lonelier.

Try these instead:

“I am peace.”
“I am calm.”
“I am free.”
“I am love.”
“I am light.”
“I am abundant.”

These are inner game changers for you!

Write the one that best supports you on a post-it note and put somewhere you can see throughout the day to help you reclaim your abundance and what you’re creating in your life. Keep them at 3 words! I am __________.

Remember, what you focus on is what you create. For tips to reclaim your inner game on your finances and abundance, read this – The Drive for More Money.

2. Reclaim your Relationships

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship.

How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. They follow your lead, you set the stage:

If you think you deserve a certain type of relationship or people around you that is the tribe you will attract.
If you believe you aren’t lovable, the people in your relationships will believe that too.
If you feel alone, guess what? No one can take that away from you but YOU. You’ll find yourself surrounded by people that are there but aren’t your people and you will feel alone.

Self-love and self-worth come from within. They determine how much power you feel you have. Power is an energy exchange and ideally, it is EQUAL in all your relationships.

When you find fulfillment in yourself, you are able to create relationships at work and home that are fulfilling, balanced and have boundaries.

How to Reclaim Your Relationships

Claim your truth:

Begin by knowing in your whole being, “I am love. I am light. I am safe. I am whole.”

Let go of any resistance to these statements in your body because these are your energetic truths.

Feel these “I am” statements through your body from the top of your head, through your body, down to your feet and into the Earth.

Boundaries:

We think that people should know what we want without us telling them. The problem is they are not a mind reader. We have to communicate and one way we do that is with boundaries.

Create boundaries to let people at work and at home know what is okay and what is not. Make sure you are firm on the boundaries or people will ignore them.

An important boundary to create is around work and your personal time. Don’t work in your personal time and at work, don’t work on your personal life. Create clear times to help you be present in both areas.

Respect the boundaries that others set with you as well. Remember to treat others as you would like to be treated. For more support in this area, read Stop Searching and Find Fulfillment in Your Relationships.

3. Reclaim your Time

This is the number one thing I hear from successful entrepreneurs that directly affects all the other areas: “I don’t have any time.”

Yes, you are busy and your work is your passion. But somewhere along the line, work became your life.

Now you are feeling overwhelmed and unfulfilled. Money is nice but something is missing – enjoying all the fruits of your labor, living a fulfilling life and playing.

How to Reclaim Your Time

Create a Work Schedule

Create work hours and stick to them.

Do not (no matter how tempted you are!) work in your personal time. A life outside of work is very important for you and your relationships.

Do not check email and social media outside of your designated work times. You can set times throughout the day and stick to those times.

Prioritize

Complete the most important tasks first and the rest will be completed as it can be.

You can intuitively tune in to see what is the most important thing each day. Each day, priorities change based upon your work’s demands and flow with that.

Be Realistic with Your Schedule

This can be a tough one for most entrepreneurs. Often you are overly ambitious with how much you can squeeze into each day.

Schedule less into each day than you think you should. This will save time for any last minute emergencies or priorities.

Only say “YES” to things you actually would like to do. Feel free to say “NO” (no explanation needed) for events and activities that you dread doing or that do not make sense for you to do.

Schedule in Time to “BE”

Schedule in time for self care. Self care is often hair, nails and massages – sometimes a facial. It’s not enough because it’s doing and not being.

You have to schedule in days that are blank!

This will allow you to rest, take time to “be“, time to flow with the day and have a break from always being scheduled and it gives you space to be present.

Stop watching time go by and start enjoying time in the present moment. You can also meditate, do daily energy work, get outside and enjoy nature or spend time with those you love.

4. Reclaim your Energy

By taking time each day to get back in balance you will have more energy and a renewed purpose. You are not meant to go-go-go all the time as this leads to burn out and overwhelm.

Listen to what will best support your body and do it. The more balanced you are, the easier it is to take on any obstacles or struggles that come your way.

Your body is your compass. It will guide you, you just have to listen.

It will tell you if you need to eat, go to the bathroom, go for a walk, exercise, etc.

How to Reclaim Your Energy

Listen

Listen to what your body is asking you to do. It can be as simple as sitting down and taking a few minutes to be or just pausing and taking a deep breath.

Your body will tell you if it’s time to do some exercise, eat, sleep, etc. All you have to do is listen.

Sleep

Make sure you are getting enough rest. This is important for you and those around you. 7 simple steps to help you sleep is right here.

The less sleep you get, the more likely you are to be short, crabby or annoyed. You also won’t have energy to make the best decisions.

Sleep at night is just as important as taking a nap. Listen to your body as exhaustion leads to illness and you do not have time for that!

Eat

Don’t skip meals! This leads to you grabbing easy to eat junk and often adds to weight concerns.

Eat food that nurtures your body. Prep meals or healthy snacks in advance to prevent eating junk food.

Eating also gives you time to take a break and energize, reassess and fuel up for what is next.

By reclaiming your time, you will feel present and regain your power. You didn’t go into business for yourself to be a slave to your job. What can you start doing to reclaim your time each day?

Do Energy Work Daily

A daily energy work practice is VITAL to helping you stay in balance energetically. Here is a simple yet powerful practice I teach my clients. This video series will show you how to balance your energy with White Light, how to let go of any stress and negativity you are holding onto and how to refill those areas with positive energy.

You and those around you will notice a huge shift in you when you do your daily energy work.

The energy you give off is what is attracted back to you. By reclaiming your energy and power in these four areas, you will create a shift within you that will help you create balance. What is happening within you, is reflected around you.

Success is possible in all areas of your life. Start with one shift and start reclaiming your time, relationships, abundance and energy. It starts with YOU.

Ready for some support to shift your energy? You can find my books here. Each book has a different focus to help you on your journey.

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# 1 Be Clear

# 2 Hold Boundaries

# 3 Stop Taking Everything Personally

1. Know that YOU Can Communicate with Spirits

2. How Can You Communicate with Spirits?

3. Exercise to Communicate with Spirits

How to Communicate with Spirits:

1. I Am Worthy

2. I Am Enough

3. I Am Love

Reclaim Your Power

How to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Success

These are the 4 Must Have Boundaries to put into place right now:

#1 For Your Time

#2 For Your Relationships

#3 For Your Energy

#4 For Your Abundance

It is time for you to take back your power in these areas.

Step 1 – What is Your Success Wound™?

Step 2 – 4 Ways to Create Balance & True Fulfillment in your Life

# 1 – Reclaim Your Time

# 2 – Reclaim Your Relationships

# 3 – Reclaim Your Abundance & Inner Game

# 4 – Reclaim Your Energy

Step 3 – What is it ENERGETICALLY that keeps you operating from your Success Wound™?

What happened in YOUR life at an early age to create this drive?

Your Success Wound™ is showing up energetically in your life right now, in this moment.

Step 4 – How to HEAL your Success Wound™

1. White Light

2. Letting Go

3. Refilling with Positive Energy

1. Reclaim Your Relationship with YOURSELF

How to Reclaim Your Relationship with YOURSELF

2. Make Time for Your Relationships

Schedule time with your partner, family and friends INTO your calendar.

Be Present – Unplug from Technology

3. Create Boundaries

How to Create Boundaries:

There are two things I hear from every successful entrepreneur I talk and work with:

For most successful entrepreneurs, FEAR is in charge.

These are all FEARS.

Let those fears go and regain control of your inner game!

3 Easy Practices to Reclaim Your Abundance Mindset

1. Be Grateful

2. Use “I am” Statements

3. Everyday Do an Abundance Energy Work Meditation

These 3 practices will help you shift your beliefs on money from fear to abundance.

1. Reclaim your Abundance

How to Reclaim Your Abundance

2. Reclaim your Relationships

How to Reclaim Your Relationships

3. Reclaim your Time

How to Reclaim Your Time

4. Reclaim your Energy

How to Reclaim Your Energy

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